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When Your Friend Becomes the Parent You Barely Survived

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/friendship-parenting-trauma-childfree

Published: June 15, 2025 15:48

“Some of you aren’t parenting. You’re reenacting your own chaos with smaller, more vulnerable witnesses.”This is for the childfree people who recognize harm because we lived it. And for the ones grieving friendships that ask us to stay silent about what we…

What If “Narcissistic Abuse” Is Just… Abuse?

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/narcissistic-abuse-patterns-not-diagnosis

Published: June 5, 2025 14:08

What if narcissistic abuse isn’t a diagnosis but a misreading of patterns? My latest essay challenges stigma, exposes pop-psych shortcuts, and reclaims healing for survivors beyond the myth.

Neurodivergent Grief in West Africa: How Our Ancestors Protected What the West Pathologized

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/neurodivergent-grief-in-west-africa

Published: June 3, 2025 15:15

Neurodivergent grief doesn’t always arrive on schedule. In West Africa, it was never pathologized delayed mourning was held as communal wisdom. Lovette Jallow traces how ancestral frameworks honored autistic and ADHD emotions long before Western diagnoses.

Why Autistic Kids Are Punished for Asking ‘Why’ in Religious Spaces

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/why-autistic-kids-question-religion

Published: May 31, 2025 17:08

Autistic kids get labeled defiant for doing what Jesus did asking questions, disrupting injustice, and refusing blind obedience. Today, autistic kids get punished for doing exactly the same.

The “Angry Black Woman” Trope Is Lazy

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/black-women-anger-stereotype-bias

Published: May 26, 2025 16:56

People don’t call Black women “angry” because we’re loud. They do it when we’re clear. Prepared. Unapologetic. This isn’t about tone—it’s about control. This essay by Lovette Jallow exposes the racial bias behind the stereotype.

Stop Loving Black Autistic Women in Fragments

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/stop-loving-black-autistic-women-in-fragments

Published: May 26, 2025 13:55

What does it mean to love a Black autistic woman fully—without managing, silencing, or fragmenting her?  Lovette Jallow writes on what it truly means to love a Black autistic woman without control, translation, or erasure. This isn’t softness. It’s…

When They Won’t Read But Keep Asking You for Answers

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/when-they-wont-read-but-keep-asking

Published: May 18, 2025 16:46

“It’s not overexplaining if they never read. It’s unpaid labor in disguise. This is what autistic grief sounds like when the people closest to you ask for care, but never curiosity.” — Lovette Jallow

Why My Friends Don’t Mix

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/autistic-boundaries-friendship-dynamics

Published: May 16, 2025 14:08

I don’t mix my friends. I don’t create shared group chats. And I definitely don’t expect harmony from people who are only connected through me. This isn’t fear—it’s architecture. And for autistic, multiplicitous people, it’s survival.

Sweden’s Job Market Is Rigged by Nepotism

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/sweden-job-market-nepotism-ai-bias

Published: May 14, 2025 10:49

If you're racialized, foreign-born, or outside the network—you were never meant to get in. Written by Lovette Jallow, award-winning author and expert in structural inclusion, racial equity, and AI ethics.

Sweden’s Racism Problem Isn’t Hidden—It’s Institutional

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/sweden-racism-discrimination-ombudsman-failure

Published: May 9, 2025 00:33

88 racism reports. Zero action. Racism in Sweden isn’t a glitch—it’s a system. Lovette Jallow, anti-racism strategist, breaks down how 88 reports were ignored by the Swedish Ombudsman.

You’re Not Entitled to What You Didn’t Build: Gendered Labor, Food, and Patriarchal Entitlement in Gambian Culture

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/gambian-culture-gendered-labor-patriarchy

Published: May 7, 2025 16:56

What Gambian men call "culture" is often just gendered entitlement. Cooking is not a performance. Domestic labor is not a love language. And jokes about food aren't harmless when they target women’s unpaid work. This essay breaks down the line between…

Don’t Be a Deadbeat to Your Inner Child

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/dont-be-a-deadbeat-to-your-inner-7e0

Published: May 2, 2025 10:59

From Survival to Reenactment: The Quiet Tragedy of Trauma Loops

Don’t Be a Deadbeat to Your Inner Child

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/deadbeat-to-your-inner-child

Published: May 2, 2025 10:59

How Unhealed Trauma Becomes Harmful Behavior Especially Online. You say you’re healing. But your inner child is still dysregulating on people. Still silencing. Still spiraling. This isn’t growth. It’s reenactment—again. Unhealed trauma often repeats…

Asexuality Isn’t Absence - It’s a Different Kind of Fullness

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/asexuality-isnt-absence-its-a-different-938

Published: May 1, 2025 13:07

Asexuality Has Always Existed—Even Without a Name

Asexuality Isn’t Absence - It’s a Different Kind of Fullness

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/asexual-black-autistic-love

Published: May 1, 2025 13:07

A deeply personal essay on being asexual, Black, and neurodivergent in a world that misreads stillness as lack—and silence as consent. Lovette Jallow writes about sexuality, hypersexualization, and the intimacy of silence in a world that demands spectacle.

Sometimes That Crush Is Emotional Safety - Not Love

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/crush-or-emotional-safety

Published: April 30, 2025 19:36

That crush you can’t stop thinking about? It might not be love. Sometimes what we call attraction is actually our body recognizing safety—for the first time in a long time.

What You Call Matriarchy Is Gynarchy - And It’s Still Patriarchy

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/matriarchy-vs-gynarchy-power-structures

Published: April 30, 2025 13:24

“Matriarchy isn’t patriarchy in pink. It doesn’t invert power—it refuses it.” In this essay, Lovette Jallow redefines true matriarchal leadership.

Why Autistic Daughters Often Go No-Contact with Their Mothers

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/autistic-daughters-no-contact-mothers

Published: April 29, 2025 16:22

Too many autistic daughters are cast as difficult when they were simply trying to survive unsafe mothers. Lovette Jallow explored parentification, survival roles, and the journey toward self-rescue.

Aspie Supremacy, Eugenics, and the Lies of High-Functioning Autism

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/aspie-supremacy-autism-advocacy

Published: April 29, 2025 12:18

Aspie supremacy is not liberation, it is a survival strategy shaped by eugenics, whiteness, and capitalist ideals. In this essay, Lovette Jallow traces how Hans Asperger’s legacy, false binaries like "high-functioning," and proximity to power distort real…

The Psychology of a Hater: How Their Obsession Built My Growth

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/the-psychology-of-a-hater-how-their-1ce

Published: April 28, 2025 22:52

The Hidden Lessons: How Critics and Enemies Sharpened My Growth

The Psychology of a Hater: How Their Obsession Built My Growth

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/psychology-hater-growth

Published: April 28, 2025 22:52

When critics imitate, dismiss, or attack, they often reveal their own ceilings—not yours. What they tried to block only pushed me higher.

The Myth of Hyperlexia as Instant Genius: Why Fast Reading Isn't Fast Understanding

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/hyperlexia-fast-reading-communication

Published: April 28, 2025 13:07

Hyperlexia is often misread as a sign of instant comprehension—but for many, it masks hidden struggles with communication, connection, and workplace survival..

Can You Be Pro-Black and Date White? Lessons from Nikki Giovanni on Survival and Love

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/can-you-be-pro-black-and-date-white

Published: April 27, 2025 16:44

Why survival, love, and self-preservation are not betrayals of Blackness. Love, survival, and Blackness are not binaries. They're layered, messy, and human.I wrote this for those ready to honor Black activists' humanity—not demand their sacrifice."